7 Truly Helpful Ways to Help Your Pregnant Wife

Husbands and partners feel useless 99% of the time when caring for their pregnant wife. I honestly do not remember all the things that my husband did for me when I was pregnant. I know he didn’t grocery shop like I wanted him, and I probably sounded ungrateful. However going through pregnancy without him would have been a misery so I accepted that he was going to buy anything the sample person was selling. He’s just a nice guy. 

We’ve collected 10 ways that husbands can help their wives while her body is changing and she is growing a whole person inside her. The truth is, she might not notice these things, but you will know that your small things are truly making her life easier, and that’s all you want, right? No glory seekers here. 

Case in point…

  1. Keep the toilet clean.
    She feels gross and may be consistently throwing up. Wouldn’t it be so nice of you to make sure she’s throwing up in a clean toilet. While you’re at it, you can give the tub a good scrub, too.
  2. You remember what you need from the store and you do the shopping.
    This Knock Knock notepad is a lifesaver if you’re not the usual grocery shopper of the family. Actually, it’s a lifesaver even if you are. If this outing is new to you, ask her to fill it out once with your weekly staples, and you take it from there.
  3. On a similar note, you do the cooking.
    Find out what she’s craving and make it in plenty. And get a good idea of the foods she can’t have like soft cheeses and cold deli meat. If you’re eating out, her favorite place and dish will change on a whim so ask what sounds good for that day. And she’s not sharing.
  4. Give her as much of the bed as she wants.
    Several things can make a pregnant woman uncomfortable at night time. There’s the obvious: the growing belly, making back and stomach sleeping a no-no. Also, her mind won’t stop racing. She could feel hungry or thirsty. And her body temperature is warmer than it used to be meaning she might not want to spoon or snuggle or be touched even by your pinky toe. Give her some space to spread out.
  5. Take a walk with her.
    See all of these free things we’re giving you? Walking as exercise is so good for your mama-to-be, especially during the last 4 weeks of pregnancy. Get that baby locked and loaded. She may want to be alone, but offer to go along. You can talk or not talk. Quiet days will be hard to come by soon so either way, it’s going to be quality.
  6. You remember important dates.
    Pregnant women are fully capable, competent people and should not be patronized. But if there is something that isn’t on your daily or weekly calendar, you remember it, take care if it, or gently remind. Your older kid’s preschool class needs forks for the party? You do it. It’s her mom’s birthday? Remind her.
  7. Know what’s going on with her.
    Go to the doctor’s appointments if you can or stay with your older kids while she goes. Read a pregnancy book. Download an app. No woman wants to feel alone in pregnancy. Show that you’re there for her by being there for her. Ask questions. Be informed. Be a partner.

Let us know what your helpful tips are!

*All images are from Photo by Betsy.

December Box

We curated our most festive box yet. Take a look at our December Box and why we chose each product. There is so much to love!

Natural Calm Holiday Citrus Spice

This wasn’t the first time we included Natural Calm, but it was the first time their holiday flavor has been on the market. We love the citrus spice. Everything about it feels cozy, and that’s not even the best thing about it. Incorporating Natural Calm in to our nutritional routine has made such a difference for us. It’s marketed to help relieve stress, which it does. Probably because it helps you get a better night’s sleep. Magnesium deficiency can show up “as fatigue and low energy; inability to sleep; muscle tension, spasms and cramps; anxiousness and nervousness; headaches; constipation and abnormal heart rhythms.”

We first learned about Natural Calm from Becca’s midwife. When Becca was pregnant with her third baby, she experienced a lot of back pain early on in her pregnancy. Her midwife told her to start taking Natural Calm, and it worked. Now we all love it.

Freyda’s Pantry Snack Bar

Nutrition Bars that are made for new and pregnant moms are a gem to find. Especially when they’re delicious. From the first trimester on, it seems impossible to keep your energy up. Growing a baby and caring for a baby are hard work. I never believed people when they said they “forgot to eat lunch” until I became a mom. We want moms to remember to care for themselves well, and feeding the body is Self-Care 101.

Pualani Beauty Peppermint Scrub

This scrub has all the good stuff: the natural exfoliant – cane sugar,  moisturizing organic coconut oil, and anti-aging vitamin E oil. Top it off when a delicious peppermint scent, and this is holiday in a jar.

Miss Mouth’s Messy Eater Stain Treater

You can’t take anything during pregnancy too seriously. Like peeing on yourself…it’s probably going to happen and you just have to laugh. A much lesser incident is spilling food on your baby belly. Napkins never stay put, and food can’t get in your mouth fast enough. I ruined so many maternity shirts for this reason. I love it now for my kids messes, but I wished I had known about it from day one. It’s safe, peroxide free, chlorine free, phosphate free, 100% biodegradable and really effective.

Enjoy Mama Bird Box to make each day a better day!

 

 

My Pregnancy Uniform: Courtney Miller

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We spoke with super mom, Courtney Miller, about her self-care routine during pregnancy. Boy, are we so glad we did! Courtney is mom of two darling girls with a third little gal due any day now

What is your daily beauty routine? what products do you use?
With two kiddos and another on the way, I don’t have a lot of time to spend getting ready in the mornings, so I have a pretty laid-back beauty routine. But I do love to make sure my skin is taken care of and feeling fresh! So each morning I rinse my face with water, then I apply Beauty Counter’s Nourishing Day Cream with a few drops of their Lustro Face Oil No. 3 – this leaves my face feeling perfectly moisturized and balanced, and it’s not at all heavy. If I plan to leave the house, my must-have is concealer! I love Eye Duty Triple Remedy by First Aid Beauty – it’s the perfect consistency, and has a cool (literally cool!) metal applicator to help minimize puffiness. After that, it’s a little bronzer and I’m set!
I’m a night showerer, and my shampoo is my one totally non-natural non-organic splurge, but I love it. I use Clairol’s Shimmer Lights – it’s a super fun bright purple color and it helps keep the blonde parts of my hair from getting too brassy. I follow that with Morocco’s Argan Oil Conditioner, and for body wash, I use Method foam. I alternate between two face washes – Beauty Counter’s Nourishing Cream Cleaner for normal skin days, and their Charcoal Bar for days when I want that squeaky-clean feeling.
After my shower, I use Beauty Counter’s Citrus Rosemary Body Oil all over. I’ve found that you either get stretch marks or you don’t, and no specialty product is going to prevent them – but, you can help keep your stretching and itchy skin comfortable, and the Body Oil is perfect for that. Then I apply a light layer of Beauty Counter’s Nourishing Cleansing Balm all over my face and leave it on overnight for extra hydration.
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Do you have any beauty rituals you adopted since becoming pregnant?
 For me, this third pregnancy has meant less time and energy, which has meant more of a simple routine – which I love! With each pregnancy I’ve learned to be more content with my body, with my time constraints, and to be kinder with my expectations of myself. That being said, the two rituals I’ve focused on this time around are working out and caring for my skin. I’ve found that if those two things are covered (even if my hair is in a top knot and I’m in workout clothes all day), I generally feel great!
What has been your go-to style during pregnancy? Describe your favorite outfit you’re wearing these days?
With my first pregnancy, I loved to wear skinny jeans and fitted tops, but my body has changed over the years and that just doesn’t feel comfortable to me anymore. These days, I love black Lularoe leggings (they feel like butter!) and a long, flowy tee or tank paired with sneakers or ankle booties. When I need a dressier look, a shift or fitted dress with my lightweight cargo vest, wedge booties, and a long necklace is my favorite! And of course – having my nails painted is always a must!
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Are there any particular food or drinks you love to keep you feel good and glowing?
During the first 16 weeks of this pregnancy, I was so sick and could eat nothing by crackers and dry toast, so I feel like I’ve been trying to make up for that ever since! Carbs are my very favorite, but I try to keep them limited to dinner and eat plenty of fruit and veggies during the day. I mix Amazing Grass Green SuperFood into a glass of water – it’s a fantastic way to make sure I’m getting my greens! I’ve also started taking a collagen supplement at night, and I love what it’s doing for my skin. And of course, coffee!
5) What wisdom do you hope to pass down to your little one?
We try to teach our daughters that their true beauty lies in who they are, not in what they look like. We always hope to lead by example in this way, so I never comment about my appearance in front of them. We give them complements on their beauty, but strive to combine those with complements on their hearts and minds as well. We try to remind them daily that loving God and loving people are the most important things we can do as humans – and I hope to pass all of these things along to our third daughter as well.
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What advice would you give to other pregnant moms about feeling like themselves and enjoying this time?
Keep it simple! We don’t have to lose our identity completely to pregnancy, but it’s so important to give yourself lots of grace to make adjustments as you go. Sometimes you’ll be too tired to work out, or feel too crummy to eat a salad, and that’s ok! Find the one or two things that help you feel like yourself – whether it’s blowdrying your hair, going for a walk, drinking a smoothie every morning, or throwing on concealer and mascara – and stick with those basics. Your baby will be here before you know it, and your whole world will change in the best way. In the meantime, enjoy your beautiful changing body and be kind to yourself!

Thank you, Courtney! We can’t wait to meet baby #3!